Feeling it in the Gut

I have learned a lot by having a sensitive gut.  One of my biggest learnings has been that presence is more than a one or two second thing.  It is a choice.  I now choose how I want to be when I eat.  I notice my breathing, how many times I chew the food, why I choose the food I do, the gift of conversation and letting go of any thoughts that are not about being in whatever I have chosen.  Sound like a lot?  In many ways it has been a challenge to get to this place.  One thing I have noticed is how many times I would quickly eat something on the run and move on to the next thing. With this new awareness I am seeing the benefits of mindful eating and also feeling the restlessness as I want the whole process to go faster.  As I am learning the nuances of digestion, I now see that if there isn’t just the right balance and time to absorb what needs to be absorbed it can wreak havoc on my whole system. 

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Living from the Inside

We hear the encouragement "live from the inside, the center." Yes, it sounds wonderful, and even resonates with my Being, but in the reality of life living from the center can get lost in translation. With this in mind I actually had the experience of seeing centered-living happen right before my eyes in a most unlikely event. 

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The Importance of Strangers

Last week I introduced the idea of being open with strangers as a spiritual practice. Now let’s share stories. Here is mine.

When I left Graduate school as a final hurrah my daughter and I were going to Disneyland and while there we were going to visit a friend who was going to take our bird. Where we were moving to no birds were allowed. I did the research with airlines, bought a special carrier and a huge box to put the bird’s cage in and was all set.

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The Rebellion

When I was 12 years old, my interior knowing staged a public rebellion over some of the teachings and practices of the Catholic church. This belief system ran deep in my blood; my grandpa, “Shorty” worshiped in a Belgian church built in the 1700’s.  All grandparents and aunts and uncles spent part of Sunday morning at church. It felt like it was genetically embedded, that birth came with the expectation that those born into the family would as readily and easily embrace the teachings of the church as those that conceived them. Until I came along….

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Why learn to listen like a spiritual director?

How often have you been in a painful conversation and changed the subject because you didn’t know what else to do? When was the last time you were overwhelmed by what was happening around you and felt you were alone in it? Can you remember a time when you knew there was a different way to do life and your mind was trying to figure out what that was feeling like you’d never get the answer?

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What I’m Not Doing in 2019

The new year is a great time for new beginnings.  As awareness begins, so does the want to change or add things to our lives.  We often say, “This year I’m going to change ‘blank’”.  Having awareness means change!

Deepening One’s Life

Awareness can also mean deepening one’s life.  This is what I will be doing for 2019 in my business.  Instead of adding a new program or trying a new tool to help the business expand this year, I am going to take what is working and deepen it.  By deepening it, I mean become aware of what is working and how I can make it even more useful for myself (and others).

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The Uncomfortable Zone of a Healthy New You

I have had several conversations this week about comfort zones.  In our last Connecting To God Spiritual Direction Training group, we discussed our innate desire for comfort and satisfaction.   Most of the time you can live within your comfort zone.  It is like a security blanket that wraps you up.  You know what to expect when going to work, play, and within the communities you belong to.  The challenge is that comfort zone is very hard to maintain, and it does not invite growth.  Our comfort zone is challenged all the time.  Because we desire comfort and want the feeling of satisfaction, it can quietly become what we live for if we are not aware.  This lack of awareness can cause more dis-ease when change happens.  Like waking a sleeping bear that just wants to go back to bed.

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How to Stay Awake as You Greet 2019

I’m an early to bed, early to rise kind of person. When New Year’s Eve comes around, most of the time I wait until New Year’s Day to greet it with the sunrise. There are years when I am with family and friends who want to stay up and greet the new year at midnight. On those occasions I need a lot of intention and distraction to keep myself awake and even then, it’s no guarantee. Many times, someone is shaking me awake saying “Happy New Year!”.

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Befriending Darkness

We all begin in darkness. A zygote in the eternal mother’s womb. We are sheltered, fed, tended by the dark, all our needs met. We are warm. We are safe. We belong to everything and there is no separation between me and it and her and him and they. There is only what is. But then… we are thrust into the light. A disconnect happens.

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