Ask Loving Questions
Spring is a time of new growth and energy. With any change, whether that is a change in season or a change in circumstances it’s easy to get caught up in the change and forget the center of Love that guides. I am always looking for ways to stay grounded in the midst of growing full plate times and share them with you. Recently I have been rereading books I haven’t looked at in awhile (I highly recommend doing this) and came across a chapter in the book, Shift Happens by Robert Holden Ph.D.
It is a simple practice and some questions that can help bring some breath back into one’s day. Remembering Love is a wonderful way to enter into any season of life.
He gives these statements to repeat yourself.
“First Love, then think
First Love, then speak
First Love, then look
First Love, then act.
First Love, then choose.
First Love then give
First Love, then live.”
And these questions to ask:
“Am I being loving, or am I searching for love? There is a world of difference between searching for love and being love.
Am I being loving, or am I busy? What are you chasing? Are you too busy building your future to be loving right now?
Am I being loving, or am I at work? Do not separate love and work. Work is meant to be love in action. Be wholehearted at work, and you will attract success.
Am I being loving, or am I trying to get something? Agendas, demands, and expectation lead to pain. Unconditional love receives, but it does not take.
Am I being loving, or am I trying to win approval? Are you being authentic, or are you trying to impress, people-please, keep someone or win someone back?
Am I being loving, or am I trying to change someone? Whenever you try to change someone, fix someone, save someone, improve someone, or clone someone, there will be a power struggle.
Am I being loving, or am I fighting to be right? Do you want to be right or happy? Do you want to be superior or happy? Do you want a pedestal or a partnership?
Am I being loving, or am I waiting for love? When you wait for love, it’s a long wait!
Am I being loving, or am I playing it safe? You once got hurt, and now you have so many rules, boundaries, and defenses love cannot heal you.”
May your day be filled with love!