This is it.

This is it. This is a phrase that can quietly creep into our lives. 

This is it. I’m stuck with this job position so I had better make the best of it.

This is it. God can be defined in this particular way.

This is it. I will always be alone. No one will ever understand me.

This is it. I’ve finally arrived at the promised land.

Whether the “This is it” is around something that is positive or negative, the damage of the statement is it is limiting. In my experience, if one is breathing, there are no “This is it’s”. Life is constantly evolving, moving and open to change. Sometimes I have tried to stop change but that has never ended well. Has it for you? And then fretting about the change can cause more anxiety than the change itself.

Some part of humanity is always finding finality and fighting it all at the same time. This is a powerful, deeply important spiritual paradox. Yearning for a “this is it” stability or finality and yet either fighting it or seeking it. Many spiritual traditions have dealt with this. One tradition I am familiar with is the Benedictine vows. When entering that Order, one takes a vow of Obedience, Stability and Conversion of Life (or Manners). 

I have found these three vows very helpful in my own contemplative life and in dealing with the reality of change and the willingness to land on a “this is it.”  Obedience; who am I listening to?  What voice am I following? Stability; what am I committed to? Conversion of Life; how am I growing or changing based on my listening and beliefs? Asking these questions helps me in the paradox of change and endings. 

This is it. I’m stuck with this job position so I had better make the best of it. Who is telling me this? How committed am I to this? How is this causing me to grow based on my listening and beliefs?

This is it. God can be defined in this particular way. Who is telling me this? How committed am I to this? How is this causing me to grow based on my listening and beliefs?

This is it. I will always be alone. No one will ever understand me. Who is telling me this? How committed am I to this? How is this causing me to grow based on my listening and beliefs?

This is it. I’ve finally arrived at the promised land. Who is telling me this? How committed am I to this? How is this causing me to grow based on my listening and beliefs? 

At Pathways of Grace we live in this paradox also. You’ll see in this newsletter the announcement of a new software system, new practitioners and new offerings. If you are finding it a challenge to live in the place of “this is it” and change, please join us, by seeing a practitioner or taking a class and together we’ll support each other in this amazing gift we call Life and all the paradoxes Life offers.

-Amanda