How to Talk to a Brick Wall

“Talking to them is like talking to a brick wall.”  Have you ever had a conversation where all you are thinking is “they are so stubborn, if they would only look at life a bit differently it would be so much better?”  What do you do with the stubborn, set-in-their-ways people in your life?  This is a question I hear a lot, especially from people who have experienced awakening or have opened up to God in their lives and know the benefits of changing your perspective. The gift of freedom and love is so strong that when you bump into someone who is closed off and complaining about it and yet refuses to do anything about it the contrast actually feels painful.

If you have experienced this here are some questions you can ask yourself:

1.    What is your motivation for their change? Is it to relieve the pain so you don’t have to hear about it? Do you feel your way is right? Do you feel you are to be that bit of light in their life?
2.    Are you willing to care for them as they are? Can you let go of outcome and let them be where they are? If not, then why?
3.    Why are you in this relationship? Is it time to move on or is there a reason to connect and care about this person?
4.    What can this person teach you? What are you learning about using your voice, patience, frustration, your own stubbornness and forgiveness?

How you answer these questions will be a great guide on how to move ahead with this person.  Sometimes the how to in life isn’t a list of to-do’s but an attitude of wonder. The way to meet a stubborn wall requires the ability to step back and ponder, rather than jump right into judgement and knowing and bang your head.

Practicing with others you trust is also a great way to become a wonderer. If this is something you would like to learn more about check out our Living from the Heart group.  You will meet others looking to practice wonder and love in a world of walls.

This week may you not hit your head on too many walls but instead use the walls as a place of growth and reflection.